Entitlement is a false impression of feeling “I deserve it or I deserve more.” It’s a condition that one believes I essentially deserve something special or that someone owes me something. Often times, people who have gone through emotional hurts in their childhood or suffered injustice are prone to be entitled. A child who is deprived of love, undergone abuses, ill treatments is prone to develop entitled mentality. Most of the times the root causes of entitlement are:
- Rejection, crushes the spirit of a person and if not dealt properly the enemy attacks the mind with lies which sometimes makes a person fight back demanding more attention and dominance.
- Self pity, which makes a person look at themselves in a false image and start having false expectations from people and from God.
- Pride, which makes a person think more about him/herself, than what he/she actually is.
Few examples of an entitled heart:
—What was given to me was not what I deserve.
—Others are blessed easily, but why am I still struggling? I deserve more than them.
—I deserve that job, as I am more efficient than the other person.
—Since I have gone through a lot from my childhood days, I deserve to be more blessed by God.
—I deserve to be treated well, as I am working hard for the church.
—I pray, fast and follow the commandments, God has to bless me. Because I deserve it.
—I’m special compared to other people around me.
The fruits of an entitled spirit are:
- False expectations from people and God
- Jealousy and envy
How to deal with this spirit?
The Bible says, “Romans 3:23 (KJV) For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.” As sinners, the only thing we deserve is God’s judgment. A feeling of deservedness will keep us from knowing the grace of God.
- Measuring ourselves with the Word of God, not our own standards.
- Gratitude — Ask God to open your eyes to see His goodness in your lives. Be thankful for every little thing He is providing.
- Focus on your own life only and do not compare with others. Everyone has their own cross to carry. Covetousness is a sin.
- Repent and surrender.
If the Holy Spirit has convicted you of this, yield to Him now. Do not listen to the lies of the enemy anymore. Repent and let go of that entitlement spirit. God is good, He will not withhold any good gift without giving to you. Faith is believing “I have everything what God wants me to have today.” It’s nothing that we do to deserve anything from God, when compared to the salvation He gave us by offering His only begotten son on the cross as a remission of our sins. Stay blessed and enjoy the life God has given.
Psalms 103:10 — He doesn’t treat us as our sins deserve, nor pay us back in full for our wrongs.
— Shabna Nikhil